The Cost of NOT Doing an Intensive

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When people consider the cost of saving their relationship, they often overlook what not taking action is truly costing them.

A quick search will tell you that even an uncontested divorce starts at $5,000 to $10,000, under ideal conditions. But let’s be honest: most divorces aren’t uncontested. If you’re struggling to get along now, the likelihood of a peaceful and inexpensive settlement is slim. Once legal battles begin, the emotional and financial toll skyrockets.

Compare that with the investment of a three-day Couple’s Intensive with Igniting Purpose, which ranges from $7,500 to $10,000 depending on payment structure. The cost may be similar on paper, but the outcomes couldn’t be more different.

Couples who attend an intensive experience a transformative process. They learn to communicate effectively. They begin to heal deep wounds—past resentments, infidelity, substance abuse, pornography issues, family dynamics, and childhood trauma. The intensive allows each partner to be heard, understood, and seen in a new light. And that opens the door to a powerful grace and compassion that many couples have never experienced before.

For couples teetering on the edge of divorce, stuck in years of disconnection, or simply in need of reigniting their connection, there is real, life-changing hope. If you love God and are willing to do the work, He can do the miraculous.

After a decade of working in secular therapy centers, I’ve seen firsthand what happens when God is invited into the healing process. I’ve watched couples come in hopeless and leave renewed, equipped with tools to rebuild friendship, intimacy, and trust.

Most people have never heard of intensives, and that’s a tragedy. A three-day Couple’s Intensive is the equivalent of a year’s worth of therapy packed into a focused, immersive, and purposeful experience. Yes, it’s hard work. Yes, it might make you tired, extra hungry, and sometimes feel unpleasant feelings. But like training with a physical coach, the results are worth it, and you won’t want to go back to how things used to be.

So here’s the question: Why continue in cycles of frustration and pain? Why stay stuck in patterns that drain the joy from your home?

Draw a line in the sand. Choose restoration. Choose growth. Choose each other.

Don’t let the true cost of doing nothing be the story of your relationship.